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Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not undo your own understanding. Proverbs 3:5

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Is your God in a box? Let Him out...He might just transform your life!!

Let me start out by saying....I truly like blogging as it gives me a out for my thoughts. So thank you to whomever created the

So lately I have seen so much in my family change when I decided to let God out of the box that I was in control of.

Started this bible study roughly end of 09 called Be Transformed by Scope Ministries. There are nine chapter in this book below in order. 1. Discovering the Root of our problems, 2. Understanding the Good News, 3.Seeing ourselves as God sees us, 4. Getting to know our heavenly father, 5. Living by the spirit, 6. Controlling emotions, 7. Expectations, anger, and bitterness, 8. The perfomace treadmill, and 9. A life transformed.

Well yep you look at that and I don't know about you but I wanted to run. The first five I was good with, although I totally learned to much but the next ones well I wanted to plan four absences. lol

Back up a few...I have over come several things that happened to me in the past and in growing up. As I have overcome that stuff made total peace, gave forgiveness, etc wow did I learn a few things I thought I already knew. All though I had forgiven over all is still affected some of my lifes habits and decision. The bible study was going great until chapter seven....might as well dumped a whole truckload of manour on me..because that chapter permiated the smell of it in my life.

So chapter seven was expectations, anger, and bitterness. Well I soon realized that I had it in two huge areas of my life...One my finances and two my husband. In my house growing up after a discipline issue that usally went to far...the habit was for my mom to take me out and buy me something to make me and her feel better for what happened. Bad thing...started a pattern that has haunted me till about six months ago and it is still sometimes a struggle. So when life goes crazy or out of control I really have to fight to go out and shop for instant gratification but the finacial apsect of it well that hits me later. I love to shop at whatever cost, credit card, run the check book on empty etc. I tell you this because I am so free from that 95 percent of the time and it was this chapter. The only thing that can meet my eternal and earty happiness is my God. My husband plays a huge roll in it as I use Him as my rock to keep me from He says ask yourself if it is a need or a want. Well a huge portion of the time it is a want...then I put it down and walk

The second part of this is my husband....Get ready because this my friend changed my life plus His!! On January 26, 2010 in my living room I told my girls at the group that were there that day that I was done...done with expectations with my husband. (Most of you know Jay now but one year ago he was a different man. Although he has always been a awesome man, great husband, provider, and dad the one thing I wanted I did not have...that was him to be the spiritual leader of our family.) I was tired of carrying that load. We are military and everytime we move we don't always find a church so you have to try to stay grounded. That was not a load that God called me to carry. He calls the man to be that leader. So that very day I said I am done. I am giving him to God...God if you think you can do it better then here he is...I am tired of him failing my expectations that then created anger, and then bitterness. (You see we have a son that just turned 18 and has a huge passion for God...hello God he needed that example)...well I know better to smart off to God because I know he just shakes his head and says watch
For a couple of weeks nothing changed....for the next two weeks something changed. My husband was quiet, edgy, moody etc...I kept asking what was going on, have I upset you, hurt you etc. Nope that is what I would get. Well Feb 21 I got the phone call...the dreaded phone call. Honey I am coming home for lunch and we need to have a serious talk. Well my stomach sunk, and my heart pounding. It was almost out 18 year wedding anniversary is seven days...really???? Well he came home and wow what a lunch. He proceeded to tell me how he has been freaked out for the past several weeks as he has notice some things changing in his life. (my husband is that guy who gets up at 4:30 every morning reads,, and you the pattern internet During the time I said God I am deal with him...oh he did. So many things happened with God just changing my husbands heart and my husbands role...after several events back to back he jumped in took the role that I have been waiting for a long forward one year later my husband is the mens ministry leader, Is the paul in so many guys life..pours into them and I mean pours in to them with his whole heart. He loves like God, he leads like God, he has a HUGE passion for God and most of all he is our spiritual leader. He has set the bar for our son who is so solid in Christ right now and I know that with the leader he has had the past year he knows exactly what he is called to do if and when he marries his wife. I have been able to set that role aside and be the wife that God intended me to be...submissive to my sweet hubby who is finally right in line with God and God's plan for him. Today I love my husband more and more...we just celebrated 19 years of marriage and he is our spiritual leader...that my friends is priceless..

With chapter seven...I learned that NO ONE on this earth will ever meet my expectations and I mean NO ONE! The only person that will meet my expectations 100% in my sweet savior. So people time to take those expectations off of others and let God have it...DO NOT take it back. You can't change someone...only God can. You can be a example, a I will walk beside you kind of person, and I am hear for you but YOU can't change anyone.

With closing sadly we tend to put our God in a box....we limit Him to what He can do because either we want it done our way or we don't want anyone else to control it but us. We know that God always, always works for our good right? Then give it to him let him deal with your crap...he can clean it up so much better than we can.

So in closing...I leave you with this....let God out of the box that you keep Him will be suprised at what he can do in a moment that we can't do in a lifetime...

until next time......


  1. Very well said Tiffiny.Romans 8: 28 does not say all things are good, but all things work together for the good. Cake Illustration~There are many ingredients that go into making a cake, and many of them taken by themselves are not good tasting(not everyone enjoys eating raw eggs, or flour or shortening),but if you put them all together they work to make a great tasting cake(the end product). God takes both the bitter and the sweet, the hard and the easy, the bad and the good and works them all together for good.. That's what he did with Jay. Praise God and Praise You for taking God out of the box.Until recently I had kept in the box so long, that I'm surprised he didn't suffocate, Thanks to Falon for Romans 8 :)

  2. Amen, Sister! Thank you for being so open and willing to share how God has wreaked you, your thoughts, and your turn your struggles into words of hope.

    Rock on sister.
    Love you

  3. <3 Usually I dont comment when I read this, but I always say I wish I had the courage to write about things in my life like you. I know I am not the same person I was a few years ago, but I am not where I want to be, but reading this one day I will give in and let god out of the box, in the mean time I have to learn to give things up I can't control. Thanks for this one today. May not always say or show it (not good at that kind of thing), but I do love you and your faith.

  4. Dear Tiff,

    I can't even tell you how proud I am of you & Jay. You both inspire me so much to be a better person and really seek God's face. Lately I have said on more than one occassion that I feel like I'm kind of flat lined in my spiritual and emotional life. I love the Lord so much and pray daily. I am just hoping that God would give me a jolt, kick in the hinney, whatever. I think reading your blog tonight he gave me a sparkle of what I need to do. I am going to check out this bible study, I'm praying for a radical change in my life, so I appreciate your prayers too. I too want God to change my husband's heart. I would really love for him to want to go to church with me regularly and be a Godly leader in our marriage.

    thank you so much for this. I love you guys & really miss you both. I so hope we'll have an opportunity in the future to get together again.

    Take care sweetie & again thanks for sharing!!



  5. Tiff, thanks so much for this. This is so what I tend to do (stupid anxiety & control issues). Thank you so much for reminding and clarifying for me what I am doing with those I love the most. They really are better off with God running their lives and not me but I needed a reminder to "let go and let God". That feels passive, like I'm not doing anything, when it's really the opposite, it's getting out of HIS way so HE can do much more than I can do. I love you so much Tiff, for this and your beautiful open heart for Jesus. You knock my socks off again!